With my children for example, 100% responsibility is not enough, when I cross the road with them, both myself and my wife are on the look out.
This is because when 2 people are responsible for something, it is too easy for both parties to let loose and tell themselves that “The other party is responsibility” leaving no-one responsible.
The same applies to other things in life. Unit tests for example, is very important that is why we need at least 200% responsibility. Everyone is responsible for all the tests to pass. If someone sees a failed test – fix it, don’t look for the responsible person.
I think that the opposite of a Responsible person acts like a Victim:
”Oh, the tests failed. That is because: The build server is faulty, Bob in not professional, My PC isn’t fast enough. It is not my fault, I am a Victim of the circumstances, its their/his fault”
Lets see the difference in behavior between a responsible person and a victim.
|Talks about things||Does things|
|Lives in the Past||Lives in the Future|
|Is a Commentator||Is a Player|
|Says: “I Must”, “I Need”||Says: “I intend to…”|
|Complains||Checks his boundaries|
|Blames||Asks for help|
|Advises Everyone||Saves himself|
|Sees the world as Win/Lose,Lose/Win,Lose/Lose||Sees the world as Win/Win|
|Focuses on others||Focuses on himself|
|Is Stuck||Has Growth|
Check yourself. How many times have you heard other people, or yourself, say: “I Must lose weight”,”I need to stop smoking”,”I must write unit tests”. Lets read between the lines, what they are saying is. I don’t intend to do it at all. “I Must stop smoking… but not today”
You have probably met advisors, or you might be one yourself: “You must sell your stock now, you should buy now, you should do this, you should do that”, these are victims. A responsible person will check the stock market, learn how it works and decide how to save himself instead of telling others what to do.
A victim will complain all the time, while a responsible person will check his boundaries, learn and try new things.
So how can you become responsible. Ask yourself, what can YOU do, and tell others what you indent to do. Live with integrity. The only way out of being a victim is by taking responsibility.